Most of us are not born flirts. And let’s accept it does take a while before one can learn the tips and tricks of getting ‘acquainted’ with women. Until then, one has to learn to take the humiliation in good spirit, without feeling too self-conscious. But one important thing that you need to remember is that even if it’s the first time you’re approaching a woman, there are certain dos and don’ts that you need to follow if you don’t want to completely put the girl off.

One of the most important things is your looks. No, this does not mean that you have to be a Greek God – just looking presentable is enough. Model Joanne Robinson feels that since the first impression is usually the last impression, it’s important to be dressed appropriately.

“You don’t have to be dressed in brands, just a simple shirt and jeans would do,” she says. One thing that completely turns her off is tight-fitting t-shirts, especially when worn by men who don’t have a great body. “Why can’t men simply wear a shirt!” she exclaims.

It’s great if you’ve got the looks. But if you don’t have the right attitude, things might not work for you, warns actress Melissa. “The body language plays an important role. One has to be confident when approaching a woman,” she explains. But over-confidence can backfire, warns actor Robert Clark. “Too much attitude can be a put-off. Just be yourself and be confident of who you are. Don’t pretend to be a Robert De Niro. Good humour, of course, helps, but please don’t bore a woman with PJs.

Since we’re on the topic of body language, V J Don Ford advises that men should keep a check on where they’re looking. “Look her in the eye… however distracting it is elsewhere. And avoid too much alcohol, for it can make you do things that you might regret later,” warns Ford.

Many men equate humour with one-liners, which is definitely not the case. Robinson finds one-liners a total put-off. “The most common one-liner that I’ve been subjected to is ‘I think we’ve met before… or was it your sister?’ They expect me to react positively when they claim that they know my twin sister Kim, which is ridiculous,” she says, exasperated.

Bragging is regarded as one of the most unpopular traits among women as well as men. While it is wise to keep the conversation going, vanity is the last thing that would interest a woman. Instead of talking about themselves, their money, their cars and so on, they should make an attempt to know more about the woman. And more importantly, compliment them where required. However, being sugary and syrupy or making cheesy remarks doesn’t work. It sounds so unoriginal.

Actress Mona Wasu is wary of men who use polite gestures for subtle signals. “I was in school and was on talking terms with a guy who was with me in my tuition class. One day he asked me if I had a reference book that he could borrow. I didn’t have the book but told him that I could borrow it from a friend for him. When we were on our way back from my friend’s home, he presented me with a flower and proposed to me.

I was shocked but I expressed my feelings, to which he said that the fact that I was making such an effort was a sign that I’m interested!” explains Wasu.

It’s true – men don’t take rejection too well; and worse, become a pile-on. I recall an incident: “One of my friends used to approach women by asking them for a dance. And if they declined him he would simply say; ‘Oh, I don’t feel like dancing either!’ and would refuse to budge, trying to make small talk with them. I’m sure that can get very irritating.”

Rejection is part of life but why be a spoil sport? Let’s face it, these embarrassing moments give us a reason to laugh years later when we think about them. So go on, don’t give up.

Dress shoes on a woman and a man

A dress shoe (U.S. English) is a shoe used as a component of formal wear. A dress shoe is typically contrasted to an athletic shoe.Dress shoes are widely used in dance and for evening parties and special occasions.

Men’s Dress Shoes
Men’s dress shoes are most commonly black or cordovan in color. Other colors include: brown, burgundy, oxblood, chestnut or white.

Loafers
Loafers come in both men’s and women’s styles. It is not unusual for a man’s loafer to have a tassel, although a tassel can be seen in women’s varieties too. In actuality, the men’s and women’s loafers are quite similar, which is why the loafer is typically thought of a more masculine shoe.

Oxfords
Oxfords lace up and tie to keep them on the wearer’s foot. They are typically made of leather, but can also be constructed of suede and other similar materials. Some Oxfords have an additional piece of leather sewn over the toe section.

Brogues
Brogues, or wingtips (the standard American name), are similar to oxfords, but different in that the additional piece of leather sewn over the toe section is in a W shape, resembling that of a bird’s wingspan, hence the American name for these shoes. While a brogue is a specific shoe, the term “wingtip” can refer to any type of shoe that has the W shape on the toe, including boots.

Women’s Dress Shoes
Women’s dress shoes come in a variety of colors: black, silver, gold, tan or white and they may also match the color of the gown, dress or suit being worn. Almost all women’s dress shoes are high-heeled.

Pumps
Pumps are typically thought of as a staple in any woman’s wardrobe, and come in a variety of colors and styles. They can have a rounded or pointed toe, and are usually made of leather. They have a heel of at least 5 cm (2 inches). Today, pumps have evolved beyond the classic working woman’s shoe. Now, there are peep toe pumps, which have a small opening at the toe. There are also pumps with ankle straps. Not only have the styles evolved, the fabrics have as well. While almost all pumps used to be made of leather, pumps now come in a variety of materials, such as suede and wool.

Slingbacks
The slingback is similar to the pump in that it can have a rounded or pointed toe and usually has a heel, but it doesn’t wrap all the way around the heel like pumps usually do. Instead, it has a narrow strap that is pulled up over the heel, leaving the rest of the heel exposed.

Loafers
Loafers are usually flat and typically thought of as more masculine and comfortable than anything with a heel. The typical loafer has a square toe, and comes in darker colors, such as black or brown. One spin on the loafer is the cloak, which is a slip-on shoe, just like the loafer is, but it has a heel and is a little more feminine than the average loafer.
Mules

Mules are shoes that slide onto the foot, and do not cover the heel or the back of the foot at all. These aren’t considered dress shoes unless they have a heel.

Ballet Flats
The ballet flat hasn’t been a popular fashion trend until sometime within the last five years. Taken from the art of ballet, as their name implies, they are flat shoes with a rounded toe, and come in many different colors and patterns. The classic ballet flat has a small bow on the toe, but this style has evolved to include varieties without bows.

Sandals
While sandals are usually more casual, there are some sandals that can be worn with dress clothes. For example, any sandal that has a heel, many straps, or a shiny finish would probably be acceptable in a more formal atmosphere.

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Author: John Chen

About the Author: a shoes&clothes seller,working for a the shoes&clothing wholesaler- Younger Footwear Company